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to regain control of your emotions and behave calmly after being upset or distressed
When he saw the accident, he had to pull himself together to call for help.
He needed to calm down enough to make a phone call for assistance.
She was crying during the meeting, but she pulled herself together and continued speaking.
She stopped crying and resumed speaking calmly.
Often used in situations where someone is emotionally overwhelmed but needs to act responsibly.
Use this idiom when someone is visibly upset but needs to focus on a task or situation. It implies temporary emotional distress rather than chronic instability.
This phrase is best used sparingly. Overusing it can sound dismissive of someone's genuine emotional state.
The phrase emerged in the early 20th century, combining 'pull' (to exert force) with 'yourself together' (to gather one's emotions or thoughts). The metaphorical image suggests physically gathering scattered emotions into a unified state, as if 'pulling' them into order.
Primarily used in informal contexts. It can sound patronizing if directed at someone in severe distress. Often used in advice or encouragement rather than criticism.