How to say "Sorry" in Vietnamese

In Vietnam, expressing regret like "Sorry" depends heavily on the social context. Unlike English, where "sorry" can be casual or formal, Vietnamese often adjusts the phrase based on who you're talking to. The most common way to say "sorry" is Xin lỗi, but it’s not used the same way as in English. For strangers, elders, or people in higher positions (like teachers or bosses), you should sound more formal and respectful. With friends or younger people, it can be more relaxed. Tone and body language matter a lot—saying it with a slight bow or a soft voice makes it more sincere.

1. For strangers, elders, or people in higher positions Use Xin lỗi with a polite tone. It’s best to add a small gesture, like a slight bow or placing your hands together in a prayer-like position (like a "prayer gesture").

   • Xin lỗi, tôi đã làm phiền chị ạ!
     "Sorry, I disturbed you!"
   • Xin lỗi, tôi đến muộn rồi ạ.
     "Sorry, I’m late."

2. For friends or people younger than you You can use Xin lỗi casually, but it’s common to shorten it to just Lỗi (meaning "my fault") or add a friendly word like à at the end to soften it.

   • Lỗi, mình vô tình làm rơi đồ của cậu!
     "Sorry, I accidentally dropped your stuff!"
   • Xin lỗi à, tớ quên mất!
     "Sorry, I forgot!"

3. For very close friends or family You can use Xin lỗi or even just Lỗi alone. Sometimes, people say Thôi, lỗi ("Okay, my bad") in a joking way.

   • Lỗi, mình không cố ý đâu!
     "Sorry, I didn’t mean to!"
   • Xin lỗi nha, lần sau tớ cẩn thận hơn!
     "Sorry, I’ll be more careful next time!"

4. When you accidentally bump into someone A quick Xin lỗi with eye contact works well. If you’re in a crowded place, a nod or a quick "Xin lỗi" is enough.

   • Xin lỗi, tôi vô ý va vào anh!
     "Sorry, I accidentally bumped into you!"
   • Xin lỗi, đường chật quá!
     "Sorry, the road is too crowded!"

👉 Per la vita di tutti i giorni, impara prima Xin lỗi con un tono gentile. È la versione più versatile e rispettosa, che puoi usare in quasi tutte le situazioni senza sbagliare.