말이 고와야 듣는 말도 곱다
말이 고와야 듣는 말도 곱다. 그러니까 상대방에게 부드럽게 말해.
Kind words invite kind replies. So speak gently to the other person.
The way you speak to others influences how they respond to you; being polite and gentle encourages the same in return.
상대방이 화를 내면 나도 화가 나지만, 말이 고와야 듣는 말도 곱다는 말이 있잖아. 차분히 설명해 보렴.
If the other person gets angry, I get angry too, but there's a saying that kind words invite kind replies. Try explaining calmly.
부모님은 항상 나에게 말이 고와야 듣는 말도 곱다고 가르치셨다.
My parents always taught me that kind words invite kind replies.
Often used to advise someone to speak gently or politely to avoid conflict or elicit a positive response.
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When to use this proverb
Use this proverb when advising someone to speak kindly to others, especially in situations where tension or conflict might arise. It’s a gentle reminder that our tone and choice of words can shape the outcome of a conversation.
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Cultural context
This proverb reflects the Korean value of harmony (화, hwa) in relationships. It suggests that maintaining social harmony starts with how we communicate with others.
Word Origin
The phrase originates from traditional Korean wisdom emphasizing the importance of gentle speech in interpersonal relationships. It reflects Confucian values of harmony and respect in communication.
Usage Notes
Commonly used in both personal and professional contexts to encourage polite or diplomatic language. The phrase can be shortened to '말이 곱다' in casual conversation.